20 Sep

Dating to the Extreme

Dating to the Extreme: pLookup.com helps singles achieve balance.

Hot weather lends itself to fun at the beach and sunburn. Snowy weather can lead to sleigh rides and frostbite. Suffice to say that extreme weather begets both benefits and drawbacks, extreme personality types are no different. Dating an extrovert or an introvert comes with its own unique set of perks and perils.

While dating an introvert, it is likely that you will feel truly heard in the relationship. Who doesn’t want to be on a date with someone that’s not checking their phone every three and a half minutes? An introvert’s ability to listen and process information can be a deeply endearing quality. However, listening without sharing can create an imbalance that requires deliberate correcting. It is important to reciprocate good listening practices (bonus points for follow-up questions!) when conversing with an introvert, otherwise one may find that they’ve shared their life-story, thoughts and feelings on every topic known to man, as well as what they ate for breakfast without knowing the first thing about their partner. When introverts resist sharing their feelings and information about themselves it can lead to frustration, arguments, and possibly a parting of ways. According to Preston Ni1, author of Relationship Communication Success for Introverts, “When it comes to matters of the heart, an introvert may think, act, and communicate in ways that are different than those who are more extroverted. Sometimes her or his intentions are misunderstood, or overlooked.” 

Dating an extrovert can be fun, a lot of fun. According to PsychologyToday.com contributor Noam Shpancer, Ph.D.2 “Extroverts tend to be happier, more socially connected, and more charismatic than introverts.” According to Shpancer they also tend to be “better adjusted sexually.” While in a relationship with an extrovert, one is likely to spend a great deal of time with their friends. Because extroverts draw energy from sources external to themselves, they prefer lively social scenes such as parties, bars, concerts, and the like. These meetings construct a tapestry of understanding, as seeing one’s partner through the eyes of others can be very telling. An extrovert’s love of socialization may make one-on-one time hard to come by. Individuals who have dated extroverts often site their affinity for crowds as a roadblock to intimacy.

It’s important to remember that even when someone is identified as an introvert or an extrovert, that does not mean they behave that way every day and in every situation. Human characteristics are fluid. An introvert may occasionally enjoy a fun party the same way an extrovert may elect to Netflix and chill. Carl Jung, the father of personality studies himself has been quoted as saying, “There is no such thing as a pure introvert or extrovert. Such a person would be in the lunatic asylum.”

For those singles who feel like Goldilocks on the dating scene, “he’s too introverted, she’s too extroverted” they may find that dating an ambivert is just right. Regardless of where one falls on the personality spectrum, it’s highly likely that they will find commonalities with an ambivert, a person who has demonstrated a balance of both introverted and extroverted behaviors, satisfying a sufficient number of their must-have requirements for a successful and long-lasting relationship. 

Personality profiling site pLookup.com allows singles to learn more about potential partners even before their first date. Using complex algorithms data scientists are able to assign a personality profile to nearly every adult in the United States without the use of surveys, tests, or interviews. Love profiles on pLookup.com allow singles to not only discover the personality types of anyone they’re interested in, but they are also given insight into effective communication methods, suggestions for date locations and activities, and even their bedroom behavior.

If dating extroverts and introverts has left you lonely, a combination of the two may be just what the doctor ordered. Before you make reservations for your next first date, visit pLookup.com to make sure that an ambivert is on the menu. 

pLookup.com is wholly owned by PYCO, Inc. | www.pycoinc.com

1 8 Signs You’re a Romantic Introvert, Preston Ni- https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201702/8-signs-youre-romantic-introvert
2How Your Personality Predicts Your Romantic Life, Noam Shpancer, Ph.D.-https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/insight-therapy/201608/how-your-personality-predicts-your-romantic-life